So, I see these types of posts around this time of year usually. This year is different though. 2020 has challenged all of us more so than previous years have. From covid to the election this year has really taken us all to our wit’s end. For me I think it has been good for me though. I honestly don’t think I would have learned these lessons if not for the events that took place this year.
- Sometimes hard work doesn’t equal success and that is ok.
This one can be kind of subjective and interested differently based on what one’s idea of success is but take it how you will. I was so hard on myself after graduating because I did not achieve what I thought of as success, a good job and being independent in my own place with friends. I thought that not achieving these things was a reflection of my lack of ability or intelligence. By seeing so many stories on social media of other graduates both pre and during covid who also did not yet achieve those things I felt less alone.
My therapist also helped me learn that even if you get what you want or even think you need it won’t solve all of your problems. You need to be able to be strong without the goal you are working towards. If not you will attach yourself to it too much. Do I still want to work towards being more independent and having a good career? Of course, but it will happen when it should happen.
- Your mental health is more important than any grade, promotion, or relationship.
There have been many times in my past when I put work and school ahead of my well being. I felt that the situation was not making happy so if I could just plug through then everything would be ok. Long story short, that didn’t really have good results for me and how I felt. If I am being honest I don’t know how I will handle balancing self care with something as time consuming as graduate school or a full time job in addition to my side hustles like this blog, my YouTube channel and sponsored posts on Instagram. I will try to just focus on what I am dealing with in the moment and handle it when the time comes.
- Growth is not always linear but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work towards it.
Being alone and yourself with no one is better than pretending to be someone your not around lots of people.
I used to fear being alone so much. I would go into the dining hall in college frantically looking for a friend to sit with because I didn’t want it to look like I did not have friends. During this time, I have essentially been forced to spend time by myself and I found that I honestly really enjoy it. I like being with people but watching anime with a cup of tea in cozy clothes is such a soothing experience as well. It was like I slowly approached what looked lik a huge monster but it was really a cute little bunny that I now love cuddling. It was not so scary once I actually did it.
- Accepting yourself often takes a while but it’s still worth putting effort into.
I honestly don’t think that I would have learned to embrace so many things I have been interested in for years. I realized that the version of myself that I have presented to the world has not been the real version of myself. I thought that if I showed the real version of myself to the world that no one would want to be around me or be my friend. Even though I have met some lovely people online who proved that idea wrong, I do go back into that mindset of thinking I have to hide who I am to keep friends or a job. Fighting against what I am used to thinking is not always easy but I do think it is worth it because of the good moments I have had where I am myself.
So while I could list more things these are the main lessons I learned this year. They were not easy to learn but worth it. Tell me , what you learned in the comments below if you would like.
9 months. It has been 9 months since I have graduated from college. Recently, I got an email from my university asking me to take a survey giving them my feedback on my experience. To be honest, I had so much going through my mind about my experience I didn’t even know where to begin.
Were there good times? Yes, but there were also hard times.
For example, I loved the sorority formals but hated being stressed out over exams which is probably something that many people in college would relate to.
Much of my experience is another story for another post. This post is about what these past 9 months consisted of and what I plan to do now.
So, after I finished working at the summer camp I worked at during the summer, I came home and started applying for jobs. Pretty much all of them were writing jobs for newspapers and such. Nothing. I don’t know if it’s because I was not going about the application process correctly or if I didn’t have the right amount of experience, but all I kept getting were emails that basically said I did not get the job.
After that, I decided to apply for what I had actually done a few summers ago, which is an online writing fellowship. This required me to write several articles each week on different topics. Not all of them got published but it gave me a good amount of experience in writing consistently. Then something weird happened.
God sort of gave me the realization that I do not want to pursue writing anymore as a career. Who knows maybe that is why he didn’t allow me to get any jobs in that field. I feel that I need to work directly in politics instead of writing about what is going on right now. This is why I applied to be a part of a program that trains people to work on the presidential campaign for the Democratic nominee this summer. I won’t know if I get into the program for a few weeks but until then I am going to be applying for other opportunities in Washington D.C., New York City, and Boston, Massachusetts.
Is the suspense killing me not knowing if I got into the program? Yes.
Do I wish I knew exactly what was going to happen in the near future? Of course, but that is not how God works. I have to trust that everything will be ok and that he has an incredible plan for me.
Y’all! The new InfluenceHer Essentials Kit is amazing!
This season’s box has such a wide range of products. This box includes…
The Garnier SkinActive Soothing Facial Mist. It is so refreshing and smells so good!
The Complete Juice Plus Shake Bottle. This is great for shakes, smoothies, and water!
These shake mixes are whole food based and filled with protein!
This super cute bag with some very unique dental products from Steripod.
The bag included products like this toothbrush protector!
My favorite products would have to be the Garnier SkinActive Soothing Facial Mist and Garnier Skin Active Micellar Cleansing Water. Both are so refreshing and great for the skin!
Mom is the one person that everyone wants to get the perfect gift for, even though she always says that she doesn’t want anything. These gifts are lowkey enough to keep her from worrying about your bank account and sincere enough to make her feel as special as she is to you every day. Plus, all of these gift ideas are under 50 dollars!
- Chocolate – You can’t go wrong with chocolate! I bought a box of chocolate for my mom and I know that she will love it!
- Shoes – Every woman needs a good pair of flats. These are cute and the reviews say that they are very comfortable. If your mom doesn’t already have a pair I highly recommend that you get some for her!
- A book – If my mom didn’t already have this book I would totally get it for her. A good memoir is a great gift, especially if your loved one needs some inspiration for their new year’s resolutions.
- Slippers – Our moms work so hard all year. So they definitely deserve a pair of comfy slippers to be able to relax in.
- A cute wine glass – I don’t even think this one needs much of an explanation. I mean look at what this glass says? I wish I had one that said Because Collegin ain’t easy.
Now that Thanksgiving is over Christmas season is here. This means that everyone and their grandmother is looking for the perfect present for that special someone. I used to be hesitant to do gift guides because I wasn’t sure if my ideas would be good but I feel like since my gift ideas are a bit more on the affordable side I could help you all out in that department. This one is geared towards people who are in my age group. So, if you are a mom or dad who is unsure of what to get your daughter who is in college, I got you covered! Plus all of these items are under 100 dollars!
- Headbands – College girls are in enough of a hurry already so the last thing we want to do is take the time to make our hair look nice when we are already running late for class. A headband like this is super cute and is a great distraction from our frizzy dry shampoo filled hair!
- A Keurig – I love being able to use my Keurig every morning to make a delicious cup of coffee to start my day off with. By replacing their Starbucks habit with a homemade cup of coffee, your favorite student can save quite a bit of money. Also make sure to use a reusable k-cup to help reduce your waste!
- A Magic Bullet – This blender only costs 34 dollars and can be used for so many things! We all want to avoid the freshman 15( and the sophomore slump, and so on…) so this is a great way to help a student you know or yourself maintain a healthy lifestyle. I have used mine to make everything from smoothies and sauces to grinding up oats to make my own flour!
- Phone Wallet – This wallet makes meal swipes in the dining hall so much easier. Instead of having to take off my backpack, find my wallet, and then pull out my card, I can just take it out of my phone wallet and I am good to go!
- Comfortable Wedges by OTBT – Every girl wants a pair of shoes that are nice enough to wear when going out but also comfortable enough to walk long distances in. These shoes fit into both of those categories and are so cute!
Y’all where has the time gone! The last time I wrote to you all I was getting ready to start my senior year of college and now it is Thanksgiving Eve! This semester has been so busy! With my sorority, honor fraternity, job, and trying to keep my grades up I have literally been here there and everywhere. Like many college students, I have also been well…tired. But hey, I’m almost there.
This is the first holiday season where I will be making my own vegan dishes which is both exciting and scary at the same time! I’m looking forward to seeing what veganism will be like when I put my own spin on some holiday classics.
While I am definitely not looking forward to working on the large amount of homework I have during the break, I am looking forward to catching up on blog posts and how girl-boss related things. Stay tuned.
As much as we hate to admit it, summer is officially over at this point. My friends and I are in the second week of the fall semester and the homework is coming in like there is no tomorrow. Thankfully InfluenceHer Collective and Her Campus have come together to put together the perfect kit to help us start our semester off right!
From incredible brands like Almay and High Sierra, these products are sure to help you start your semester off with a bang!
Let’s start off this adorable sleep mask. At the end of the day, I want nothing more than to be able to close my eyes and sleep after a long day of class and work. This sleep mask is super cute and perfect for blocking out the distractions so you can rest for another busy day!
This lotion by Bliss has such a simple but fresh scent! I love freshening myself up during the day by rubbing some nice smelling lotion on my hands. This lotion is probably my favorite product out of everything I got in this kit!
I get so hungry during classes so a snack like these bars is perfect for someone like me! They are also a great healthy alternative to what might otherwise be a very unhealthy snack.
In today’s makeup age, we are often very focused on matte lipsticks but I honestly miss the days when we would all wear sparkly lip glosses! These lip glosses by Almay look great on top of a liquid lipstick or by themselves!
This backpack is very different from the type that I would normally steer towards but too cute to resist wearing!
My biggest concern with backpacks is whether or not they will be able to hold all of my books and folders that I use for my classes in addition to my laptop and anything else I might need on any given day. This backpack has more than enough room for those things!
Links – Necklace(similar)/Shirt(similar)/Shorts/Sandals(sold out but similar)
To learn more about these products, be sure to check out my Instagram post that I recently posted with photos of all the products!
Hey gang! Happy January! So I know it is a little late for a new year’s resolutions post, but I really wanted to think about my goals for this year and what I want to achieve in 2018.
As I have gotten older, I have begun making more goals than typical “resolutions”. I find that this makes me much more productive and actually help me achieve my goals. I also try to keep them pretty realistic, so not to end up giving up by the beginning of February like a lot of people do.
So, without further ado here are my goals for 2018!
- Transition to a vegan diet. – I have actually been a vegetarian for two years. It started as just a bit of challenge to myself. Now, I honestly can’t see myself eating any other way. After watching several documentaries and YouTube videos by many vegan bloggers, I decided to try going vegan. The first time I went vegan it did not go well. The main reason was that I was taking a lot of things out of my diet without replacing them with good vegan alternatives. This time I am much more educated about veganism and how to make sure I am getting all the proper nutrients. While the transition was not easy at first, I honestly feel great! I’ve really enjoyed trying new foods and different vegan alternatives to foods like yogurt and cheese!
- Exercise at least once a week. – I know this is such a cliche resolution but this is something I seriously want to do for myself! I actually really enjoy walking and jogging, especially in the summer! This past summer I literally walked at least 2 miles every morning! I just loved listening to my playlists while taking in that warm summer weather! When I came to school I wanted to keep the momentum going but I also wanted to do really well in my classes. Unfortunately, my classes got the best of me. I think I literally went to the gym once that whole semester and I’m pretty sure it was during syllabus week. Now, that I have a much better handle on my studies and how the academic side of Coastal works, I hope to be able to exercise more. There is even a cycling class that goes during The Bachelor! It’s called Cycle Cinema! Hopefully all the drama will distract me from how sore my legs are!
- Spend more time with God. – I feel like for Christians this our basic cliche resolution we make every year. As cheesy as it sounds though, I really do want to connect with God more this year. He has shown me so much already recently, even without me sitting down with Him and His Word, I can’t imagine what else I will learn. I know it won’t be easy with my busy schedule but even if I just spend 5 minutes with God that will make so much of a difference!
- Have more fun. – This past semester I worked really hard! I wanted to bring my grades up so I could apply for internships this summer. I definitely am glad I put in so much work. Yet, one thing I really feel like I missed out on was the social aspect of college. I am in a sorority but I really pulled back on my involvement in it because of how much time and effort my classes required. I hope to be able to maintain my GPA and also enjoy myself!
- Make all A’s and B’s. – I was able to finish last semester with all As and Bs. As hard as it was I was so proud of myself! I know keeping this up won’t be easy but I know that I can do it!
So these are my goals for 2018. As hard as some of these will be the feeling of accomplishment after is honestly so worth it. I would love to read what your goals for 2018 are as well as any blog post requests you all have for me in the comments below!
Hi everyone! Happy New Year!I thought I would give you all a bit of an update on where I’ve been! I hope everyone has had a wonderful holiday season spent with your family and friends! I know I certainly did! I had a very busy semester at Coastal so it was nice to be able to just kick my feet up and relax!
Adjusting to a new school is always hard, especially when the school is out of state and bigger than what you are used to. The classes were far from easy but I managed to finish with all As and Bs!
Socially I feel like I am still adapting but I have made some moves in the right direction. I joined a sorority, Tri Sigma. I got a big who honestly is the perfect fit for me. Our sorority is pretty big and to be honest there are still a lot of people I have yet to get to know but hopefully, I will be working on that in 2018. I have also found a great church very close to campus. I’m really glad I was able to find a good church where I can grow my faith away from home!
There aren’t that many people I feel super close to yet but I do feel like I have met some good people and am planning on trying out some new clubs and organizations so that should definitely help!
As I am reflecting on both this past semester and year I am realizing just how much happened! 2017 was a doozy! Some good and some bad but all in all I’m glad made the decisions I made and where they brought me!
I will be posting my goals for 2018 later this week but in the meantime I want you all to tell me what you hope to accomplish in the new year! Thank you all so much for bearing with me during this transitional period in my life! Now that I have the academic part of my life under control I do plan on posting more this year!
Cheers to another great year with you all in 2018!
As I am typing this blog post I am currently sitting in the Starbucks on the campus of Coastal Carolina University, where I am a new transfer student! I seriously am so excited to start this new journey of mine!
Now, before I get into the present and the specifics of what I have been up to as of now, let’s take a step back to see how I got to where I am now.
When I began my college search, I never thought I would end up at a beautiful beach school in South Carolina! I always knew about Coastal because my family had vacationed near here, in Pawleys Island for years and was always curious about what the school was like. As soon as I stepped onto the campus, I knew this was the place for me! The vibe is relaxed but with great professors!
Hopefully, this will be a good explanation for why I haven’t been posting recently. If you all have any suggestions about college-related blog posts like specific factors that went into my college decision, how to be healthy in college, anything you all want to read!