My goals for 2021

So, I honestly was not sure where to start with this sort of post but then I remembered that one of the things I wanted to do was be more chill and real not just online but in life so I was able to then come up with some goals that are realistic but also able to benefit me in many ways.

Stay more consistent with my social media schedule. – I am going to be honest and say that this is one I have tried to stick to in previous years. I have either had something happen in my life that took my focus away, I got lazy, or I procrastinated too much with content. This time I made a pretty good schedule for when I will make content for not just this blog but also my YouTube channel, TikTok, and Instagram. I wrote down a lot of ideas that I am very excited to work on.

I might not stick to my schedule perfectly or upload content every single week like I would like because life happens and I am human but I do think this new plan of mine will help me put out more content than I have in previous years and on a more consistent basis.

Do grounding exercises more consistently. – This is something in relation to my mental health. Grounding is an exercise I do to bring myself back to a good mental state when I feel anxious. At times it has been difficult for me to implement this practice when I feel so anxious that I get overwhelmed and don’t aim to bring myself back to a better mental state. I hope to get better at implementing this practice though.

Exercise consistently and focus more so on speed and endurance than weight loss. – In the past I have focused too much on using exercise on maintaining a certain look or weight instead of just enjoying it. I have finally found some forms of exercise that I like and have made some playlists on Spotify that I really enjoy working out to. So, I am really looking forward to just getting into a good head space and enjoying things like running and walking on a more consistent basis.

Remember to relax and enjoy things just because they are fun and regardless of whether or not others around me like them. – Finally, I want to have a better mindset towards life in terms of just enjoying activities like blogging and photography just because I like it and enjoy it, not because of how it might benefit me monetarily, career wise, or if I can turn it into a side hustle. I kind of want to start playing around with procreate and maybe design some stickers. Could I make money from selling them? Sure. Could I also just enjoy making them? Yeah, because honestly that is all that matters.

I am honestly very glad I only put down a few goals. I think with a handful they will be easier to focus on.

Small Business Spotlight – Pheebs Makes Things

So, one thing I really want to do in the new year is highlight some of my favorite small businesses. Many have suffered because of Corona so maybe telling you all about them and their products will help them out a bit.

This week’s is the Etsy shop called Pheebs Makes Things. The owner is so sweet! She did send me these products for free but these opinions are totally honest and completely my own.

Products –

  1. Scannable Spotify Glass – This is something that honestly looks very Tumblr but I really like it. I actually liked the one in the photo so much that I bought a second one. You can customize it based on any song you like. It’s a very unique piece that you can use to decorate your room.
  2. Customizable Wine Glass – This wine glass is really cute and very durable. I love my state so being able to put it on the glass was very cool. You can put any state or zodiac sign on it.
  3. Stickers – These stickers are great quality and very cute. If my laptop was not already covered in stickers I would definitely add these.

What I Learned from 2020

So, I see these types of posts around this time of year usually. This year is different though. 2020 has challenged all of us more so than previous years have. From covid to the election this year has really taken us all to our wit’s end. For me I think it has been good for me though. I honestly don’t think I would have learned these lessons if not for the events that took place this year.

  • Sometimes hard work doesn’t equal success and that is ok.

This one can be kind of subjective and interested differently based on what one’s idea of success is but take it how you will. I was so hard on myself after graduating because I did not achieve what I thought of as success, a good job and being independent in my own place with friends. I thought that not achieving these things was a reflection of my lack of ability or intelligence. By seeing so many stories on social media of other graduates both pre and during covid who also did not yet achieve those things I felt less alone.

My therapist also helped me learn that even if you get what you want or even think you need it won’t solve all of your problems. You need to be able to be strong without the goal you are working towards. If not you will attach yourself to it too much. Do I still want to work towards being more independent and having a good career? Of course, but it will happen when it should happen.

  • Your mental health is more important than any grade, promotion, or relationship.

There have been many times in my past when I put work and school ahead of my well being. I felt that the situation was not making happy so if I could just plug through then everything would be ok. Long story short, that didn’t really have good results for me and how I felt. If I am being honest I don’t know how I will handle balancing self care with something as time consuming as graduate school or a full time job in addition to my side hustles like this blog, my YouTube channel and sponsored posts on Instagram. I will try to just focus on what I am dealing with in the moment and handle it when the time comes.

  • Growth is not always linear but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work towards it.

Being alone and yourself with no one is better than pretending to be someone your not around lots of people.

I used to fear being alone so much. I would go into the dining hall in college frantically looking for a friend to sit with because I didn’t want it to look like I did not have friends. During this time, I have essentially been forced to spend time by myself and I found that I honestly really enjoy it. I like being with people but watching anime with a cup of tea in cozy clothes is such a soothing experience as well. It was like I slowly approached what looked lik a huge monster but it was really a cute little bunny that I now love cuddling. It was not so scary once I actually did it.

  • Accepting yourself often takes a while but it’s still worth putting effort into.

I honestly don’t think that I would have learned to embrace so many things I have been interested in for years. I realized that the version of myself that I have presented to the world has not been the real version of myself. I thought that if I showed the real version of myself to the world that no one would want to be around me or be my friend. Even though I have met some lovely people online who proved that idea wrong, I do go back into that mindset of thinking I have to hide who I am to keep friends or a job. Fighting against what I am used to thinking is not always easy but I do think it is worth it because of the good moments I have had where I am myself.

So while I could list more things these are the main lessons I learned this year. They were not easy to learn but worth it. Tell me , what you learned in the comments below if you would like.

My favorite small businesses to shop from this holiday season

So, I was thinking about how I was going to do my sales roundup post for this Black Friday season. I was going to include stories like Abercrombie and American Eagle but they are getting a bunch of business( while I must admit their sales are amazing and I definitely spent way too much money on those sites). Instead I am going to dedicate this post to my favorite small businesses that you should definitely support this holiday season.

  1. Maddie Green Designs

Maddie is the sweetest girl ever and she sells such a wide variety of products on her website. I have bought quite a few and am obsessed. My personal favorites are the comfort colors t shirts with her own personal designs on them.

The shirt in the photo above features her Holiday Cheer print. It is so cute and so comfortable !

Stickers – 40 percent off

Totes – 30 percent off

T Shirts and Sweatshirts – 25 percent off

Notebooks – 20 percent off

Mugs – 15 percent off

Ornaments – 10 percent off

2. Kate Hickman Art

Kate is such a sweetheart and an incredibly talented artist. I first found out about her because one of her videos came up on my TikTok for you page and I was in awe of how she could take scenes from shows like Avatar the Last Airbender

Monday – 20 percent off of all prints

– National Parks prints and the Avatar the Last Airbender prints

3. Shop Amber Richele

Amber Richele is an incredible black woman who makes tye dye everything. From biker shorts to hoodies she does it all.

– 25 percent off of select items

4. Cussing Candles

The women who run this candle shop are so nice and the candles smell as good as the ones that burn in stores like Anthropologie but are a fraction of the cost.

– 25 percent off of all candles

– 30 percent off of shimmer candles

Let’s try this again.

Details –

Hi, so I have not posted on here in a while and I am feeling a bit unsure about how to go about writing this post. This is actually the second time I have written it because I was an idiot who didn’t save it last night and fell asleep.

Basically I stopped blogging for a while for a variety of reasons, some of which I may discuss at a later time on this platform. The other reason I stepped away was because I felt like I could not fit in in the blogging or YouTube world anymore. It’s like I had no niche and could not be in a box like many bloggers I follow. You are either a fashion blogger, a makeup blogger, a vlogger but not all of the above. Yet, the thing is I am not just one thing I am interested in many things. I love anime, monograms, leggings, flannels, liquid lipsticks, and cosplay. So, I am not going to just be a fashion blogger or just one anything. I am going to be me.

So, like this photo above that is of me in a hoodie I am going to be fully and authentically myself. I will dress preppy but I will also dress casual and edgy sometimes. I’ll talk about veganism but also anime and makeup. I am very excited about it and hope you all will enjoy the upcoming content!

My Favorite LGBT Tik Tok Accounts

I don’t know about y’all but I love Tik Tok. Now, I know what you are thinking. Livi, you are 25 years old. Why are you watching a bunch of dancing videos with good looking teenagers?

That’s the thing it’s so much more than that. It’s politics, skits, jokes, people educating their viewers on social issues and much more! The content is so creative!

So, I thought I would do a series about my favorite Tik Tokers . The first part of this series will be about my favorite LGBT Tik Tokers.

Also, I will be doing a separate post for progressive and LGBT christian Tik Tokers but this post will just be about LGBT Tik Tokers.

  1. i_make_it_weird – Chris is a transgender Tik Toker who answers questions about his transition, family, and what it has been like to transition as an adult with a partner and kids. He’s super nice and very receptive to questions he gets.
  2. uhohgay – Spencer is a gay high schooler who makes really chill and sometimes funny videos about honestly just being himself. He also did a series on how to come out which can be really helpful for some people.
  3. garrettclayton – You may recognize Garrett from the Disney Channel Original movie, Teen Beach Movie. He was the main male character in the fictional movie, Wet Side Story in the main movie. His videos aren’t super educational like other LGBT Tik Tokers. They are honestly just fun to watch and a great escape from the every day tasks and such in life.
  4. desmondfambrini – Desmond is a gender fluid man of color who makes videos educating their followers on gender, sexuality, and lots of other things as well. They are also really positive and their videos will make anyone’s day.
  5. haleyfaulkner – Haley is a lesbian Tik Toker. She makes mostly skits about gay culture and such. She’s funny and also really pretty!

So, these are some of my favorites. If there is anyone you think I should know about feel free to drop their username in the comments!

The top 4 shows you should watch during quarantine

Hi, so before I start I know that I have not posted in a while. Things have been kinda crazy for me during the quarantine like they have been for a lot of people. Without going too much into detail this whole thing has just really shaken up my world.

One of the things that has been helping me pass the time during this whole thing is honestly a lot of shows on streaming services. I have always loved television but it has become a real escape for me at this time. So, I thought I would share with you all some of my favorites. Here are my top 5 shows to stream during this quarantine. Also this just includes things that were either released during the quarantine or added to a streaming service during the quarantine.

1.Avatar: The Last Airbender

Ok, so this is a classic that I literally grew up on. I remember watching the finale and watching in awe as Aang defeated the fire lord. Also, can we all agree that Zuko has the best character development of all time?

If you have not seen this I highly recommend it. It is on Netflix.

2. Little Fires Everywhere

This is one of the most unique stories I have ever seen. It starts out as a simple story about a girl and her mom who move to a new town but is so much more than that. It is kind of hard for me to describe it any more than I already have without spoiling it so if you have Hulu I definitely think you should watch it.

3. Outer Banks

This show was very popular for about a month on Netflix. I will be honest and say that it’s not exactly an Emmy award-winning show but the plot is interesting and the guys are super hot!

4. Working Moms

This show is really funny and has very interesting storylines for all of the main characters. It’s basically about Kate, a working mom and her friends who try to navigate life as well…working moms.

Let me know what shows you all like. Also if you watch Outer Banks are you a John B-girl or a JJ girl?

9 months later

9 months. It has been 9 months since I have graduated from college. Recently, I got an email from my university asking me to take a survey giving them my feedback on my experience. To be honest, I had so much going through my mind about my experience I didn’t even know where to begin.

Were there good times? Yes, but there were also hard times.

For example, I loved the sorority formals but hated being stressed out over exams which is probably something that many people in college would relate to.

Much of my experience is another story for another post. This post is about what these past 9 months consisted of and what I plan to do now.

So, after I finished working at the summer camp I worked at during the summer, I came home and started applying for jobs. Pretty much all of them were writing jobs for newspapers and such. Nothing. I don’t know if it’s because I was not going about the application process correctly or if I didn’t have the right amount of experience, but all I kept getting were emails that basically said I did not get the job.

After that, I decided to apply for what I had actually done a few summers ago, which is an online writing fellowship. This required me to write several articles each week on different topics. Not all of them got published but it gave me a good amount of experience in writing consistently. Then something weird happened.

God sort of gave me the realization that I do not want to pursue writing anymore as a career. Who knows maybe that is why he didn’t allow me to get any jobs in that field. I feel that I need to work directly in politics instead of writing about what is going on right now. This is why I applied to be a part of a program that trains people to work on the presidential campaign for the Democratic nominee this summer. I won’t know if I get into the program for a few weeks but until then I am going to be applying for other opportunities in Washington D.C., New York City, and Boston, Massachusetts.

Is the suspense killing me not knowing if I got into the program? Yes.

Do I wish I knew exactly what was going to happen in the near future? Of course, but that is not how God works. I have to trust that everything will be ok and that he has an incredible plan for me.

A New Perspective

 

So, I am going, to be honest, and say that I really am not sure about what to say right now. I thought about writing a typical post about being back to blogging and how I am going to post more but that just didn’t feel right.

This is going to be me just saying what is on my mind.

So, I realized that I want this blog to be about more than just fashion and products I like. Not that I won’t still post about that sort of thing but there are other things I want to post about as well. Some of these things include mental health, positivity, my life, and much more.

Why?

Because there is so much more to me than just my style. I feel like I have been holding back but now I am ready to post about literally everything.

I used to feel like I had to put my platforms into a specific category but now I feel like I can just post whatever I want.

I hope you all will enjoy the new content. It will be different from what I have posted before but I am very excited about it.

So, get excited about the new content that is coming. Y’all can also post suggestions about what you all want to see from me.

The Fall InfluenceHer Essentials Kit

Y’all! The new InfluenceHer Essentials Kit is amazing!

This season’s box has such a wide range of products. This box includes…

The Garnier SkinActive Soothing Facial Mist. It is so refreshing and smells so good!

The Complete Juice Plus Shake Bottle. This is great for shakes, smoothies, and water!

These shake mixes are whole food based and filled with protein!

This super cute bag with some very unique dental products from Steripod.

The bag included products like this toothbrush protector!

My favorite products would have to be the Garnier SkinActive Soothing Facial Mist and Garnier Skin Active Micellar Cleansing Water. Both are so refreshing and great for the skin!